Occasionally, we want to showcase the voice of the prison wife in her own words. She may be a wife or a girlfriend or a loved one. But it is important for us to recognize that when her man does time, she does time, too.
My name is Tekelia Allen – I am a prison wife!
My husband and I dated about four years ago and broke up because I felt he just wasn’t ready, so we went our separate ways. In the meantime, I would check up on him to see how he was but I never let him know.
And eventually about a year went by and I heard that he had gotten locked up. I cried because I just couldn’t believe that being as though he is not a bad person. I started to cry and then I prayed for him and went on with my life.
So one last year, February 2014, I received a message from his sister saying that he wanted to know if he could have my address. Mind you, by this time it had been three years since I heard from this guy. Anyway I gave it to her and within a few days I received a letter from him apologizing for some of the things he had done while we were dating. He said, “I know I’m probably the last person you want to hear from but out of all the things I had in my heart to do, one of the things was to make it right with you.” So that led into a visit…And after the visit, he called on my ride home and said will you be my lady?
I just didn’t know what to say but I knew that the feeling that I got when I was sitting in front of him was everything!! I never stopped loving him.
And so I said yes. “But what I need from you is to be sure that this isn’t jail talk because I know of a few stories similar…” He said, “Baby, I don’t know what jail talk is. This is my first rodeo, and I know I want you in my life. Next thing you know, after a few more visits he asked me to marry him. Well I wasn’t sure because he was sentenced to a very long time and I know I wanted a fairy tale wedding; I would have a long time to wait. So I took it to God and, sure enough, we went ahead and got married July 08, 2015.
I still can’t believe I’ve been married for 3 years. If I could start over, I wouldn’t change a thing! I try to go visit him at least twice a month or whenever I’m off work. His prison is about three-and-a-half hours from my house, so each visit I drive seven hours round trip – but he is definitely worth it. I’d drive it anytime just to see his face. I lost a few friends, or shall I say “associates,”behind my decision to marry him, but hey – things change and people change. As long as I have my husband, my son, and God I’m ok with that.
While he is away, I find all types of things to do to pass time: I work, go to church, spend time with my son and, lastly, spend time with my sisters in my bike club! I encourage everyone in my situation to have a relationship with God first and all else will fall in place. I don’t worry about what others think because their opinion isn’t needed. While my husband is doing his time on the inside, I’m doing time on the outside. Last but not least I want to thank Pigeonly for doing what they do for us and keeping us connected with their services.